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ARTICELS Marketing: March 2007

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Sunday, March 25, 2007

Why You Should Talk to Fat and Ugly Girls

by:Dan Tolumbro

From Pickupmastery.com:

One thing I’ve been noticing from going out lately is that the hottest girls I end up making out with or number closing usually aren’t in the set when I open..

What happens is I go up to some girls who are maybe 5’s to 6’s, and chat with them, get them giggling, etc. From there, a hot girl, maybe an 8-9 walks up and introduces herself to me. Believe it or not, a lot of hot girls roll with less attractive girls. From there on you already have the group’s comfort and appreciation so it is easy to isolate the hot girl from there.

Just two weeks I had rolled up to a couple less than attractive girls and said “You seem fun, I just had to say hi.” We were chatting back and forth, when a hot 8.9 came up. I started doing some dance spins with her around, and within a minute said “Your legs are tired, my legs are tired; Let’s go sit at that booth.”

I took her by the hand and led her to a booth away from the others and we started cuddling. Within minutes, we were making out and I got her number. She’s still calling me back and we’re setting up a meet soon.

Now could this have worked had I waited until the 8.9 was already in the set? Of course. But I’ve found it to be far easier to attract a girl if you hit the set before she arrives. You’ve already won over her friends at this point. Even if you haven’t won over her friends it can still work well if you’re already in the set. Some months back, I went up to two girls who weren’t that interested, and a third girl came up who was interested. She stayed behind when her friends left and we ended up making out at the bar.

On a more general note, you should be playfully bantering with all types of women, and guys as well. Throughout your day, you should be bringing joyful interactions to as many people as possible. The fat ghetto girl serving you at Burger King? Make her smile. You don’t have to outright flirt of course, but just a little playful misinterpretation can help the day.

Also by talking to as many people as possible you can sort of “neg” the girls you finally legitimately approach. If you only go up to hot girls in a bar, the girls around you notice that you’re gaming. However if you’re talking to one legged girls and random guys all around the bar, when you’re finally going up to the hot girls, they assume you’re just being social and that It’s not a full blown approach.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:39 PM 0 comments

Top 40 BBW (Big Beautiful Women) of All-Time

by:J. Anthony

As Hollywood continues to pressure beautiful women to lose more and more weight to be considered beautiful, I think it is time to celebrate "real women."

Real women are confident, sexy and beautiful no matter their shape or size. There is a phenomenon that started on the internet a few years back called BBW. BBW stands for Big Beautiful Woman.

This does not necessarily mean a fat woman. A BBW is a woman who is proud of who she is and isn't ashamed of her body. Contrary to what Hollywood would have the world to believe, not every man wants a pencil thin woman. Many men want their women to be real. They want their women to have curves. A true BBW is confident, sexy and real. She is a Big Beautiful Woman. The following list is presented by the internet's premier online dating site for BBW's and their admirers (http://www.BBWSinglesFinder.com) which has been online since 2003.

Here are our Top 40 BBW’s of All-Time:

1. Marilyn Monroe - Considered one of the sexiest women of all-time, and by today's standards, she would be considered a BBW.

2. Oprah Winfrey - Although Oprah's weight has gone up and down, she is beautiful no matter how much she weighs.

3. Queen Latifah - An accomplished musician, actress and BBW.

4. Delta Burke - Her character on Designing Women was a BBW and yet, she who was the sex symbol of the show.

5. Wynonna - One of the most successful female country music singers of all-time and a sexy BBW as well.

6. Emme - The most famous "Plus-Size" model of all-time. Living proof that you don't have to be thin to be attractive, sexy and successful.

7. Aretha Franklin - The queen of R&B and a beautiful BBW.

8. Melissa Peterman - Barbara Jean from the sitcom, Reba.

9. Ann Wilson - Lead singer from the rock band, Heart. She was miserable until she decided to live her life as a BBW.

10. Jamie Lee Curtis - Why is she on this list? Because of her stand a few years back when she refused to let her pictures be air brushed and manipulated anymore on magazine covers. She is not really a BBW, but her principles are in line with what a BBW stands for... Be yourself and love your body no matter your shape.

11. Serena Williams - She's athletic, successful, beautiful and a BBW. She's not fat, but she is a Big Beautiful Woman.

12. Trisha Yearwood - One of the top country music singers of all-time and married to Garth Brooks.

13. Elizabeth Taylor - She is right up there with Marilyn Monroe as one of the sexiest women of all-time.

14. Nell Carter - The lovable house mother on Facts of Life and a beautiful BBW as well.

15. Missy Elliott – Popular Rap and R&B singer and beautiful African American BBW.

16. Camryn Manheim – Actress best known for role on the Practice.

17. Rosie O'Donnell – Probably the most famous plus-size comedian of all-time.

18. Kathy Bates – One of the best actresses in the business.

19. Mia Tyler – Sister of actress Liv Tyler and famous plus-sized model.

20. Sophia Loren – Just like Marilyn Monroe, one of the most beautiful women of all-time.

21. Carnie Wilson – Singer from the band, Wilson Phillips.

22. Kate Winslet – Star from the movie Titantic and voluptuous superstar.

23. Roseanne Barr – Comedian, actress and formerly married to Tom Arnold.

24. Sally Struthers – Former star from All in the Family.

25. Mo'Nique – Star of the movie Phat Girlz and her own hit sitcom, The Parkers.

26. Mama Cass – Famous singer from the Mamas and the Papas.

27. Toccara Jones - She won Tyra Banks' Top Model contest on VH1.

28. Countess Vaughn - Star of The Parkers TV show with another BBW, Mo'Nique

29. Della Reese – African American actress, singer, model and activist.

30. Mona Lisa - Subject of the most famous painting of all-time.

31. Kim Coles - Actress from In Living Color fame.

32. Yvette Wilson - Beautiful BBW Actress from Moesha.

33. Margaret Cho – Famous comedian, actress and activist.

34. America Ferrar – Star of the film, Real Women Have Curves and the new ABC series, Ugly Betty.

35. Lindsey Hollister – Actress most well-known for role on Boston Public.

36. Mayim Bialik – Former star of the NBC sitcom, Blossom, who blossomed into a BBW.

37. Pearl Bailey – Famous African American Singer, Performer and Actress.

38. Mae West – Burlesque star in the early 1900’s.

39. Barbara Brickner – A beautiful plus-sized model who works with Eddie Bauer, Lands End and Nordstrom to name a few.

40. Kimberley Locke – Pop singer introduced by American Idol and a plus size fashion model.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:39 PM 0 comments

The Keys To Successful Dating For Men

by:Nathalie Fiset,M.D.

Dating is probably one of the most exciting yet daunting adventures any single individual might ever encounter.

Traditional dating—meeting up, going out and eating out—with somebody you are interested with can be a challenge as well as a learning experience for everyone.

More than the women, men feel more pressured when going out on a date because they are expected to do almost everything to make the date a success. Since they are the ones who will carry out most of the so-called “dating tasks” here are some tips that can help men go through with the exciting process of dating the girl they are interested with.

BARING THE BASIC DATING ESSENTIALS

Dating can be a daunting task especially for those men who haven’t dated for a long time, for those who haven’t been successful with women, and even for those guys who are so used to dating without knowing the basic rules in playing the game.

Remember, people need conform the rules whether they like it or not. In the case of dating, there are simple rules that need to be followed to ensure success for both parties.

1. Ensure cleanliness by keeping on eye on your hygiene and style. The worst thing any man can do is to turn up on a date smelling, unshaven, and looking dirty so the first thing you should do is to take a bath, brush your teeth, and shave those stubborn stubbles. Men who do not know how to maintain hygiene are no-nos for the more hygienic sex. So it pays to spray on some decent cologne and gargle before you meet up with your date.

2. Dress up to look your best. Looking your best when you go out on a date gives the idea that you have prepared for the special occasion even if it’s only a first date. If you don’t have enough dough to buy new shoes or clothes, at least try to wear those decent ones to impress your date.

3. Be on time. The first impression of women is usually based on how much men value their time. If you ask a woman on a date, make sure that you can turn up on time because not doing so will give her the impression that you don’t value your word. If you don’t want your date to think you are unreliable, try be early or at least on time when going out on a date.

4. Before asking someone out, make sure you have a job to flaunt. Women always find security in men you are secured themselves. Although financial stability is too early to discuss, your current job will give her an idea if you can manage dating her for a long time. Men who have jobs give women the impression that they are ambitious and they have the will to go on top.

5. Do all the necessary preparations. Preparing for things you can say during the date will ensure the easy flow of conversation all throughout. Getting your knowledge levels up and sharing it with your date will definitely make her date interested. The safest topic to discuss includes current events so make sure you watch the news or read quality broadsheets.

6. Know when to stop talking and start listening. Opening up topics for a conversation will pave the way for an interesting intellectual stimulation but you must know when the ice has been broken. After you have given your thoughts on a certain topic, ask her what she thinks and listen to her intently.

7. Issues on bills. The general rule in dating is that whoever asks for that date should pay for it. Since you are the one who asked for and you are the man, then, by all means, you should pay the bill. But if the idea of your paying for the entire bill does not sit well to the woman you’re dating and she insists paying for her own, make a compromise. Suggest that she pays the half and you’ll pay for the rest.

8. Being a gentleman pays. Simple things that show your gentleness like holding the door open for her, letting her walk through the door first, and pulling out a chair for her will definitely make an impact on her. Showering her compliments throughout the day will also make her think that you appreciate her efforts of looking good for the date.

9. Watch out for body language. After the date, watch out for her body language before attempting to kiss her goodnight or before trying to seduce her to jump into your bed. Sex on first date is not a good thing unless she wants to. Lastly, don’t tell her that you’ll call her if you don’t have plans of doing so.

10. If you are serious in the woman you’re dating, start learning how to live a healthy life. Smoking and drinking only show irresponsibility and carelessness because you are not taking care of your health.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:38 PM 0 comments

Romantic Christmas Gift Ideas She’ll Love

by:Jill Renee

Christmas is a magical time, especially when you get to spend it with the one you love.

But finding that one Christmas gift idea for your girlfriend, fiancée or wife can be a daunting task if you’ve just started dating and you’re not sure what she’d like, or, you’ve been together or known her for a long time and you’re not sure what to buy the woman who has everything.

If you’re just stumped and can’t quite decide on what to give her, but you are looking for romantic Christmas gift ideas that will sweep her off of her feet, keep in mind that the best Christmas gift ideas require some time and effort on your part.

Here are some ideas that go beyond the impersonal gift certificate or typical scarf to get you thinking about some alternatives that may put a sparkle in her eye this Christmas.

A Christmas Engagement

There are few romantic Christmas gift ideas that can top getting engaged over the holidays. You are giving her the gift of your love and commitment, and her finger is decorated with a beautiful testament to your feelings for her.

Of course you can go over-the-top with planning the wedding engagement – renting a limo, an expensive dinner for two, and maybe even a horse and buggy ride. But if you’d rather put that money toward getting her a ring, or saving it for the wedding, you can create a memorable experience for her with little expense.

• Cook Dinner Yourself – Even if you aren’t the world’s greatest cook, she will enjoy the fact that you took the time to create a meal for her.

• A Romantic Walk – Taking a walk after dinner, under the stars, to enjoy the Christmas lights can be absolutely enchanting, especially if you get down on one knee and slip a gorgeous diamond engagement ring on her finger.

• The Family Gathering Turned Engagement Party – If either your family or hers is planning to get together a little before the holidays, contact the hosts ahead of time and let them know you will be proposing. You may be able to make the gathering twice as festive – an annual event bringing the family together, and an opportunity to celebrate your engagement at the same time.

But if getting engaged is not in your plans for the holidays, you can always express your love with jewelry. A pair of diamond earrings with a matching necklace or pendant is a classic choice, or, you can choose to start a tradition by giving her a gold charm bracelet that can be added onto holiday after holiday.

Traveling

Whether you’re going for the exotic island location, an outdoor adventure, or you want to completely romance her, the surprise of a vacation getaway (that she doesn’t have to plan) is a romantic Christmas gift idea that will have her glowing with happiness. Giving her the opportunity to relax and truly put her obligations on hold, whether for a week or a weekend, is a gift all by itself – and if she can do this in her favorite kind of setting, you will definitely touch her heart.

Here’s a few sites to visit to begin planning the trip:

• For the islands – if she wants to sit back and relax, these two sites are a one-stop shop for all-inclusive packages:

http://www.sandals.com

http://www.cruises.com

• For adventure – a vacation filled with fun, outdoor activities is easy to plan with these sites:

http://www.iexplore.com

http://www.spectrav.com

• For romance – you’ll find that Paris is not the only option for on-location romance with these options:

http://www.allgetaways.com/activity.asp?areaid=100436

http://www.vacationidea.com/romance.html

Spoil Her

Pamper her by combining a trip at the spa, a shopping spree and time with her friends for a luxurious day or weekend.

Every woman enjoys feeling like a princess, and there’s nothing quite like the VIP treatment you get at a spa. Go beyond the standard manicure and pedicure and tie both of these pamper sessions in with a facial, massage and/or body wrap. Most spas offer packages for these services, so ask some women you know to name their favorite luxurious spas.

The only thing better than a holistic spa treatment by herself is having a girlfriend or two go with her. Talk with one of her friends’ boyfriends and suggest he use the same Christmas gift idea for his girlfriend so both women can share the experience together.

Combine this with lunch or dinner reservations at an exclusive or hot, new restaurant in the area, and a shopping spree, courtesy of your credit card, and she will come home at the end of the day, relaxed, renewed and grateful to you.

The best way to find a good local spa in your city, or even in your state, is to get a referral from someone who has been there. But if you really want to take things to the next level, you can send her to a retreat at one of the world’s best spas.

Or, instead of spending the time with one of her friends, you can offer to join her for some time completely dedicated to her needs and interests. Probably the best Christmas gift idea for your girlfriend, fiancée or wife is to give her the gift of your time – turning off the Blackberry, forgetting the to-do lists, canceling the meetings, and completely focusing your attention on her and letting her know how much she’s appreciated. And, taking the time to participate in her day could bring the two of you closer together.

Any Christmas gift idea for your girlfriend, fiancée or wife should involve some thought, creativity and planning. If you combine those three elements, any romantic Christmas gift idea that you have will go over well. Because, after all, isn’t she going to put a lot of thought and effort into your Christmas gift? Truly show your love by doing the same for her this holiday season.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:37 PM 0 comments

Making A Great First Impression On Women

by:Dharmesh Patel

ALWAYS look your best. I know this sounds REALLY obvious but you'd be surprised by how many men don't understand the importance of this simple tip.

You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it’s become a bit of a cliché because it’s true -- first impressions really do count.

Here are some figures to consider from my studies.

If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of EVER getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point – she might like women herself etc).

If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%.

This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad.

It’s the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you’re on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success – no helicopters for you.

Honestly, I can't stress this enough -- always try to look your best.

Tiff’s 5 S’s of first impressions.

Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.

Remember these 5 S’s and always take care of them before you go out.

Why are shoes my number 5 S?

Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable.

What you wear is very important. I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.

Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's and imitate the styles you see there -- most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend the Earth on clothing.

Many guys I help dress better usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in, but nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.

Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too.

Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.

One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.

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posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:36 PM 0 comments

ow To Keep Your Cigar In Perfect Condition

by:Steve Dolan

Cigar Humidor

For people who smoke cigars, it can become something of an obsession.

Over time, cigar smokers often develop precise rituals that they adhere to every time they smoke a cigar, and can be quite pedantic about how they store their cigars. If you're not privy to this obsession of smoking the 'perfect' cigar, then you also probably don't understand the need for a cigar humidor.

The basic purpose of a cigar humidor is to both store and protect cigars. Many cigar enthusiasts believe that cigars need to be stored at a precise temperature in order to maintain their peak flavor. That's exactly what the cigar humidor does - maintains a constant temperature. Opinions vary, but it's generally believed that the range between 68 and 70 degrees Fahrenheit is perfect for cigars. The humidity also needs to be controlled, and kept at a level around 70-72% humidity.

Cigar aficionados have long debated about the ideal temperature required for the storing of cigars. Some insist that even a slight fluctuation in temperature can prove detrimental to the flavor of their cigars, and insist on a temperature of 70 degrees Fahrenheit. Others are a little more flexible and allow a slight amount of temperature fluctuation. Generally they all agree that the lower the temperature, the quicker the cigar will age, which will then cause a reduction in flavor. If you want to maintain the flavor, integrity and color of your favorite cigars, then a cigar humidor is essential.

What features should you look for when purchasing a cigar humidor? The one essential feature is that it must be completely closed once the lid is shut. If the lid isn't snug and secure, then it's possible that the temperature or humidity inside will fluctuate. A lid that's tight also prevents any other outside elements contaminating the cigars, and prevents any moisture exchange. It's helpful if the inside of the cigar humidor is smooth and seamless, to prevent snagging of cigars (or fingers!). It's also useful to have fittings inside the humidor to assist in the storing of the cigars.

You can choose from a variety of interior linings, but cedar is generally preferred. The best is Spanish cedar. Finally, make sure you know the exact size of your favorite cigars before you go shopping for a cigar humidor. Otherwise you might get home and find you can't fit them in! This is very important, because both cigars and humidors come in a wide variety of sizes. As soon as you get your cigar humidor home, start using it, so that your cigars will have a long life, minimal aging and the best flavor possible.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:33 PM 0 comments

Photo Handbag: Giving Your Wife The Best Gift For Any Occasion

by:Mario Churchill

Try to imagine that you suddenly remembered that your wedding anniversary is next week and you forgot about getting your wife a gift while you're busy at the office.

Try to imagine how frustrating it can be for you and how disappointed she may be if she discovers that you didn't buy her anything for your special day.

When you think about it, it's really not a pretty sight to see. So, if you forgot about buying her a gift, you would then need to buy her a gift immediately. However, you know how confusing and how frustrating it can be with just thinking about what gift you should give her. Surely you don't want to buy her the latest gaming console available in the market that you have been really wanting as a gift.

You want to buy her something that she will treasure for a long time and at the same time, show your creative side.

It is important that you should give her something that she can use and one that she can show off to her friends.

Flowers alone just don't cut it. If you want to really impress her, you should try and think about what kind of thing she would really want to use and at the same time, remember you.

An example of a perfect gift idea for your wife in any occasion is a handbag. Sure, a regular designer handbag can be great, but what if you can personalize it? What "personalize" means is that you can put something on the handbag that she will truly appreciate.

An example of a handbag is called photo handbag. Because of today's advancement in photo printing technology, you can now print pictures anywhere you want. You can print your wedding photo on the sides of the handbag with designs that she will truly appreciate.

You can even put in different photos. You can put in a family photo, or just about anything as long as the quality of the photo is good. All you have to do is look for a photo printing service that offers photo handbag printing service near your area. However, if you don't see any of these services in your area, you can try and look for it in the Internet. Today, there are quite a few websites that offer photo handbags and other printing services.

There are even websites that offer designer handbags with the photo of your choice printed on the sides.

To do this, all you have to do is look for the website of your choice, subscribe in the website, choose a handbag, choose a design pattern, submit the photo and wait for it to be delivered to your home.

There are also available websites that offer photo handbag printing with the preview feature. In this feature, you choose what kind of design pattern you want and where you want the photo placed. With this kind of feature, you can really create a unique photo handbag design that your wife can truly appreciate.

If you want to make it more special, why not buy her two gifts at once. Buy her that pearl necklace she's been wanting and put it inside the handbag. With this kind of idea, you will surely make your wife happy.

Always remember that simple gift ideas are better.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:32 PM 0 comments

Erectile Dysfunction or Impotence - What Is It About?

by:Steven Harold

Impotence can also be called Erectile Dysfunction. It refers to the inability of a man to maintain an erection during sex.

It can include a reduced sense of sexual excitement, which in turn leads to a loss of an erection.

Getting An Erection and Love-Making

A man must be sufficiently aroused by one or more means to enjoy a firm erection. The arousal can be psychological or physical or even both together.

Generally the method of stimulation required to achieve arousal can be what a man views or feels. Also the utilisation of sensual or erotic language can have the desired effect too. On the other hand it can be his imagination producing thoughts and images that are of a sexual nature. Many men enjoy a combination of the both fantasy and reality.

Erections That Are Involuntary

It is well known that men get a type of erection that can be referred to as an involuntary erection. In other words an erection that he has not deliberately set out to have. A man may often notice he has an erection in bed in the morning and just before emptying his bladder. During the night the bladder has been filling with urine and this has in turn pressed on the prostate gland. Stimulating the prostate gland brings sexual arousal and this results in an erection.

There will be other times when a man gets an erection that is involuntary. For instance, a man can be sexually aroused when in the company of a person who he finds attractive sometimes. He will not necessarily want to have an erection but because he is sexually stimulated there is a good possibility that he will experience an erection anyway.

How Does the Body Achieve An Erection?

Inside the un-erect penis there are three empty chambers. These chambers fill with blood and the penis becomes stiff and erect. The penis grows longer and gets wider too.

When sexual stimulation (physical or imagined) or involuntary stimulation is present, the brain sends a message to increase the blood pressure in the body and to send blood to enlarge the penis. The three chambers in the penis fill with blood and the penis becomes hard and erect.

For the duration of sexual arousal, the penis will stay enlarged and blood is stopped from escaping from the penis by muscles at the base.

Interestingly the nervous systems of the body play an important part in all of this. The parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system are the two in question. Usually only one of these systems dominates at any one time. However to achieve an erection the two systems work together.

This information can provide a better idea of how impotence or erectile dysfunction arises. If a man experiences anxiety during sex it can alter the balance between the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system and lead to the loss of an erection.

In summary, impotence or erectile dysfunction is the lack of a lasting erection through to ejaculation. An erection is most often lost just before or during penetration and sometimes in the act of putting a condom on.

posted by rizkhey wahyudi @ 9:32 PM 0 comments

Disarming the Drag-Away Girl

by:Dan Tolumbro

From Pickupmastery.com:

The arrogance is appalling. How could this happen to you? Why now??

You’re with your friends at the club, and suddenly a total bombshell of a woman catches your eye. Maybe it’s the silkiness of her hair, or her shimmering makeup, but you know she’s the one for you … for tonight, at least. With quiet courage, you begin your path towards her.

Oops…. Nature calls. Better take a trip to the bathroom first…

5 unnecessary minutes later, you are back and ready to go. You walk up and … well the bar’s right there, might as well get another beer.

3 more even more unnecessary minutes later, you gulp down some of that liquid courage, tap her on the shoulder, and say “Hi.”

For some reason, she opens right up. She’s laughing at everything you say and the conversation is flowing effortlessly. You wish you had a recorder wired to you, because tonight you are clearly at your wittiest. She’s even beginning to touch your chest when you say something she likes, and doesn’t mind you putting your hand on her shoulder or side as you get to know her. All of a sudden, a third party suddenly enters your space.

“BECKY!!! We need to go dance!”

Gone.

You didn’t even see it coming. She didn’t see it coming. Yet within seconds, she is off dancing to “Hips don’t lie” as you stand there alone with your beer, wondering where your potential girlfriend went.

This is called the “drag-away girl.” There’s one in every girl’s social circle. Her job is so important, that when she has the flu, or is out of town, all of her friends fall into the catastrophes of setting dates, getting make-outs, or having one night stands. How crucial her assignment is.

Ok, so it’s not that formal, but in order to diffuse the drag-a-way girl’s powers, you need to understand why she creates all this madness in the first place.

Women want sex. They love sex; probably more than we do. Left to their own devices, they’d probably be having sex all the time. Who wouldn’t be tempted, with attractive people hitting on them left and right?

The problem is that there are social and personal ramifications for women who are promiscuous. They are called “sluts,” and can feel “dirty,” afterwards. Because of this, girlfriends vow to limit each others’ sexual encounters as much as possible. In fact, women will often explicitly ask each other to cockblock for them and make sure they don’t give their numbers out or go home with a guy. This is taken so far that when a girl does actually decide she wants to get laid, she’ll have to go out of her way to tell her friends not to block, just so she can act how she normally would without societal restrictions.

Of course, there are other reasons why girls drag their friends away from potential suitors. One reason could be that she is simply jealous and hating on her friend for getting hit on all the time. If a girl is overweight or unattractive in general, this is probably the main reason.

How do we solve this? The solution is simple.

As soon as the friend comes, engage her and bring her into the conversation. This will bring her into the new world you two share, instead of snapping your lady back into the other world she shares with her girlfriend. The three of you will be talking about how cool your trip to Maui was, instead of their dinner plans on their big night out next week — without you, of course. You need to stay prominent in your honey’s universe, and for that moment, lower her friend from a focal point to just a guest in the vibe that you two share.

If you do this early enough, and hold a strong frame, her friend will notice that you two are getting along, and just might respect that. What will more likely happen, though, is that she’ll still try to make an attempt to drag her friend away by saying “We’re going to go dance,” but it will be noticeably weaker. She’ll speak more softly, and her voice may quiver. Because her friend has a weaker frame than you, you will win. She just won’t sound as cool as you, and will be turned down. Your girl will just reply “I’m good,” and nod for her to go away. You may not even be able to tell that the drag-away girl has lost her confidence in her control of her friend, but it’s there if you look for it.

Now sometimes you won’t be able to the engage the friend before she tries to pull your object of interest away. She might just show up and say “We gotta go dance…now!” before you can even make eye contact with her. This situation is actually a lot easier than you would expect. Pat the drag-a-way girl on the shoulder and say, “You’re cool, you’re cool,” then turn to face your girl and resume conversation. The friend will be confused and will lose power as she stands there as you two talk. Whoever is standing on the edge, boxed out, looks less and less cool with each passing second.

She will try to reinitiate and move your lady away. Do the same thing again: pat her on the shoulder and quickly say, “You’re cool, you’re cool.” Turn your body completely to face your girl again and resume conversation. It’s as easy as shampooing your hair: Wash, rinse, repeat. You can do this over and over again until the friend just leaves; and believe me, she will leave.

In short, don’t get too reactive when an obstacle like the drag-away girl crosses your path. Be friendly if you can; and if not, blow her out of the interaction. It’s actually deceptively simple dealing with female cockblocks, once you get the hang of it. Above all, have a good time with it, and that girl will be yours.

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